Fuck I’m walking downtown and I pass a group of guys staring at me and I think “great catcall time” but then one guy goes “you look like you could kill a man a million different ways with just your bare hands”. This. This is an acceptable comment to give a girl on the street.
Um, no. #1, it is hardly ever acceptable to comment on the appearance of a random stranger, regardless of gender or the details of the comment, but #2, how is it LESS demeaning to make a negative comment than to make a comment that the speaker thinks is complimentary? Or is our society so deluded that we actually think that accusing a person of violent intent is a positive comment?
The good news is that, for once in my life, I was apparently right when I insisted that it was “just allergies”. So I’m just congested, not actually sick, which means that there is exactly one problem that I do not have in my life right now.
THIS THE MOST USEFUL INFORMATION I HAVE EVER HAD FOR DATING.
I don’t get why you can’t ask direct questions except “in case of an emergency”. It makes sense to just start by asking if the person goes to church, and if so, which church. (And then, if it isn’t apparent from the church’s name, what denomination it is) It seems to me that not only does that approach tell you most of what you want to know, but it makes it totally okay for you to ask really specific religious questions.
I relate to this so much. My parents don’t want me to marry my fiancee yet bc they see me as young and bc I make more than he does and bc he is 30 and I’m 25 and they think that’s too much older
Aww, that’s sad. :( It seems strange to me to see 25 as being young for marriage, especially since it has only been a few decades since it was common for women to get married in their late teens. My grandmother got married at 19, and she says that her mother was impatient because most of my grandmother’s friends got married before she did.
I don’t want us to be those parents who never act romantic in front of their children. I want our kids to learn how to really love somebody because we lead by example. So kiss me in the kitchen while I’m pouring cereal, cuddle with me on the couch during family movie night, and hold my hand while we grocery shop.
Let’s show them what true love looks like, so when they find it for themselves they’ll never let it go.
When I was growing up my parents would kiss when they got home from work. I could hear my dad giving my mom some playful love taps on the rear while they were in the kitchen. Was it gross? Yeah. Would I tell them to get a room? Yeah. But I’m glad they were in love and still are in love after almost 40 years.
While I agree that it’s okay and even beneficial for married couples to let their children see that their relationship is romantic, I think that there are aspects of a healthy relationship that are more important for children to learn from their parents than affectionate romantic gestures. It seems to me that, in a perfect family setting, the parents would display unselfishness towards one another and the children would learn that love is more than attraction and affection.
so the 30-year-old song “Africa” by Toto is now number one on itunes because some radio station convinced the whole population of new zealand to buy it simultaneously
This is lovely.
Hmm, I’m really not sure. The fourth Doctor is definitely my favorite of the old show, but I really like ten and eleven, too, and I like what I’ve seen of twelve so far. Not that I have anything against nine; I just have liked everyone since him more. If I absolutely had to pick just one, I guess I’d still say the fourth doctor.
Thanks for the ask!
Did you know that beekeepers have famously attractive eyes ? Every single one of them . I don’t know the science behind it , but studies show beauty is in the eye of the bee holder .
The name’s Mickey. Mickey Smith. Defending the earth.
And that’s what I call character development.
But why did they have to turn Martha into the scared one to do it though. They could’ve just been like ‘fuck yeah let’s do this together’
Sorry… I don’t normally do this, but this scene actually matters a lot to me. It’s my second favourite of the goodbyes in that episode (the first being Rose).
This moment isn’t about fear. While the evil alien was still shooting at them, Martha never showed any fear (neither did Mickey, for that matter). She was thrilled, laughing, and having a fantastic time.
The moment that is giffed on the right above is after the Sontaran has been dispatched and Martha and Mickey are seeing the Doctor and recognizing that he’s saying goodbye. It’s not about fear, not of dying, but fear and upset on behalf of the Doctor, and Mickey isn’t protecting her, he’s comforting her.
This gifset, to me, isn’t about Mickey becoming brave, even though he did. It’s about Mickey becoming an adult. On the left, he is a submissive member of the relationship, seeking comfort when he’s afraid. In the second, he’s an equal member of the relationship, offering comfort when he and his partner are upset. Because that’s what adults should do.
In addition, Martha turns to Mickey not simply, to my mind, to seek comfort, but also because she knows that he will need comfort as well. Because the Doctor means a lot to both of them.
Also, if you analyze the images, in the one on the left, Mickey is making himself smaller than he actually is in relation to Rose. Martha is not doing that in relation to Mickey. If anything, she’s making herself taller, as she goes from this:
[I could go off on a long spiel about how we perceive whoever is taller to be the dominant one of a pair, and since men are, on average, taller than women, we perceive them, on average, as being dominant, without even realizing that we’re doing it, and so on and so forth. But I’ll restrain myself.]
Also, the setup of that shot of Mickey and Rose parallels the way five-year-old Mickey interacts with grownup Rose in Father’s Day. I don’t know if that’s just a coincidence, but if it’s not, then whoever had the idea is brilliant.
I wasn’t really a fan of Mickey at first. And I’m not really a fan of his still, but I do like what they did with his character. Always a fan of Martha. Always. The woman who walked the earth.
The more thought I give to it, the more I appreciate Martha. People accuse her of being passive and weak, which is apparently not okay for an important female character, but if you look at the things she actually got done, she was probably the most self-reliant and capable of the Doctor’s female companions.And she did it all without undermining the Doctor’s authority or getting into petty arguments. (Not that it’s wrong for a woman to disagree with a man, but when he’s a timelord, I think it’s awfully egotistical for a human to assume they know better. Following the Doctor’s instructions ins’t weak and passive; it shows wisdom.) Yes, we frequently saw an emotional and vulnerable side of Martha, but that doesn’t mean she was weak, it means that it took real strength for her to rise to the occasion and make important decisions that affected other people. And that’s something she always did well. Personally, I think that people’s dislike of Martha is an example of what’s wrong with so much of feminism. We see a loud and obnoxious woman who argues constantly and we call her a “strong female character”, but we see someone like Martha who saves the world single-handedly when the Doctor is in trouble, and we call her “weak” just because she’s softspoken and respectful. Okay, end of rant.